The Weird Thing That Makes You Less Likely to Break Up

And by weird, we really mean friggin’ awesome

All of those hours you're logging at work could help your relationship down the road: Couples with young children are more likely to stay together if the wife earns more than the husband, according to a new study published in the journal Sociology.

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For the study, researchers from the U.K. monitored 3,944 British couples with children (some married and some co-habitating). They looked at who was the primary breadwinner in each couple and noted how that corresponded with relationship changes as the children grew from 8 months to 7 years old.

The results? On the whole, it didn't matter who was the breadwinner in the relationship—there was no significant difference in breakup risk no matter who was bringing home the bacon. But when children were between the ages of 4 and 7 years old, married couples were 80 percent less likely to split if the woman had a larger salary. The stats were similar for cohabitating couples.

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Study authors say further research is needed to fully understand how partners' wage differences affect couples, but they do point out that these findings help debase the myth that higher wages for women increase divorce risk. Somewhere in California, Sheryl Sandberg is smiling.

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The Lube That Makes It Harder to Get Pregnant

Lubes are great for maximizing your pleasure—but some could be hurting you in the baby-making department

Well, this is unfortunate: Most pleasure-boosting lubricants make conception more difficult for couples, according to a new study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility.

For the study, researchers tested the effect of nine different lubricants on semen samples to see how they affected sperm movement (faster sperm can increase the likelihood of egg fertilization). Shockingly, many of the brand-name products—like Astroglide and KY Warming—reduced sperm mobility. KY Tingling actually cut sperm speed by more than half (luckily, it’s no longer on the market). Oils, however—like canola and baby oil—had much less of an effect on sperm.

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Why the difference? Many popular brands of lube are created for the sole purpose of pleasure and may contain spermicidal ingredients, says lead study author Kazim Chohan, Ph.D., professor of pathology and OB/GYN at SUNY Upstate Medical University. Oils don’t have these sperm-killing components, though. While using oil as lube may drown out some weak sperm, the stronger ones appear to be able to adjust to the oil and continue moving, says Chohan. Interestingly, mustard oil seemed to make sperm more active—although further research is needed to know if it can actually boost conception rates.

We know what you’re thinking: Do people really use cooking oil as lube? Chohan says that many people do use it to avoid vaginal dryness—but here’s the thing: Oil-based lubricants can change the pH balance in the vagina, increasing your risk of infection, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of the upcoming book NeuroLoveology. What’s more, previous research has found that mineral oils can reduce a latex condom’s strength by approximately 90 percent.

The takeaway: If you’re hitting the sheets just for a big finish, feel free to experiment with the lubes you’ll find on store shelves (and remember to use contraception—lube isn’t a foolproof measure against pregnancy, after all). But if you’re trying to get pregnant, it’s probably better to try to go without if you can.

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