8 Reasons Guys Love it When You Orgasm

Your big O is pretty much the highlight of his night

You're familiar with the fortune cookie game, right? The one where you say "in bed" after you read your fortune? Well I once cracked open a cookie to find this: "You need to dedicate more time to others." … in bed. 

Needless to say, I was offended. Who did this cookie think it was? And what did it know about my bedroom performance? I'm not a selfish lover! At least, I try not to be. And I'm not alone: Most men care about more than just our own big finish. We want you to get yours, too, and a new study even proved it. Men really get off on women crossing the finish line. 

Still don't believe that me? Here are eight reasons we love it when you orgasm:   

We like to feel accomplished
You ever see a guy right after he receives a promotion at work? Or after his fantasy football team wins the league? He stands a little taller, puffs his chest out a little more. We crave that sense of achievement in the bedroom, too. So even if your guy's drooling into his pillow, if you just had an orgasm, you can bet he's dreaming the dreams of a champion. 

Big Os bring us closer
Orgasms flood both our brains with the bonding hormone oxytocin. It makes you feel more connected, love-y, and just all around awesome. And hey, why should we experience this feel-good cocktail on our own?      

We get a private show
Watching you lose control turns us on. When you curl your toes, bite your lip, arch your back … that's some real stuff. And we're the only ones who get to see it. 

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Your voice sounds amazing at that volume
We generally only hear you raise your voice under two circumstances: You're really mad at us, or you're really happy with us. When you're on the precipice of an orgasm, we assume you're in that second category.   

We like to know you're having just as good a time as we are 
There's no Yelp for men (well, this app comes close) so the only reviews we have to go on are your own enthusiasm. This means we strive to deliver upstanding service every single time. We know you can still be enjoying yourself without an orgasm, but that doesn't make us any less committed to the task.

MORE: Why Some Men Fake Orgasms 

Your happiness is important to us
That's part of the reason we love to give you things. Orgasms, as it turns out, just happen to be way cheaper (and more mind-blowing) than flowers or jewelry. 

You're like a sexy chameleon
As you heat up and your blood starts flowing faster, your chest can turn a little pink. It's called "sex flush," and it looks great on you. 

Honestly, we're just impressed
Reports from the field indicate that women can experience multiple orgasms. This is foreign to men, which makes it all the more epic to watch. 

MORE: 10 Reasons You Should Have More Orgasms 

4 Reasons You Should Totally Try a Fitness Fusion Class

In case "get in amazing shape" isn't enough of a reason for you

Maximize your time at the gym with a fitness fusion class. Here, four reasons you should try one, from Natalie Rado, a personal trainer in New York City and owner of Be Well: Fitness By Natalie.

Burn more calories.
Your muscles are challenged in several ways as your body works to maintain the pace—which revs your metabolism.

Get mobile.
Moving in multiple directions not only boosts agility but also makes you less prone to injury and can amp up performance.

Score flat abs.
The variety of moves engages your core in a number of different ways—hitting your obliques as well as your six-pack.

Stay motivated.
To keep up, you've got to stay mentally engaged. The result: Your interest won't flag during the last few minutes of class.

6 Reasons Women Fake Orgasms

Any of these sound familiar?

In (uncomfortably relatable) sex news, researchers identified a whopping six different reasons that women fake orgasms, according to a pair of surveys of over 350 women, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. Even weirder (slash, more interesting): their reasons differ based on whether they're faking it during oral sex or penetration. Oh! 

During penetrative intercourse, women tend to fake it for four main reasons:  to avoid hurting their partner's feelings; because they feel insecure about having an orgasm; to speed things up and end the sex ASAP; and as an attempt to increase their own arousal (sort of a fake-it-'til-you-make-it approach—hey, whatever works!).  

MORE: 19 Things You Didn't Know About Orgasms 

But their reasons for faking it during oral sex were surprisingly different. They still reported faking it to boost their own arousal and to protect their partner's ego, but they also gave these two interesting reasons: to avoid anxiety associated with oral sex (specifically the up-close-and-personalness of the position); and to seem "normal" in terms of sexual function, rather than betray the fact that they take a while to climax, or maybe aren't even able to. (Which, for the record: Is completely normal.)

MORE: Have Great Sex—Even When You Don't Have an Orgasm 

First of all, let's throw out the idea that you ever need to feel insecure about your orgasm—no matter how long it takes, or whether it even happens at all. And second, please let this story serve as a reminder: There's no such thing as a "normal" vagina, and insecurity about what a "normal" vagina should look, feel, or taste like is an unnecessary damper on a potentially great time. So why are we still faking it? These findings demonstrate that sometimes women think it's reasonable—or even valuable—to fake an orgasm, says coauthor Allan Fenigstein, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Kenyon College. Based on the non-insecurity related reasons listed above, it seems like playing up the theatrics may seem like the path of least resistance/least awkwardness, compared to just saying, "Hey babe, you know what? That feels awesome, but it's just not going to happen. You go ahead and finish." 

Bottom line: whether you're faking it to make your partner feel better or to overcome your own neuroses about face-to-vulva-proximity, it's time to put an end to the charade. Instead, brush up on our tips for scoring the big O, because you deserve the real deal every time.  

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