The Total-Body Workout You HAVE To Try

Meet the cure-all for that annoying gym plateau

The secret to busting out of a fitness rut is doing something totally out of your comfort zone. You need a workout that’ll surprise your muscles and keep you engaged the whole time. The fix: an intense series of supersets and fat-burning cardio intervals. Sound confusing? It’s not—let us show you exactly how it’s done.

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The Workout
Do this routine two or three days a week on nonconsecutive days. For each superset—that is, a pair of back-to-back exercises—complete as many reps of the first move as you can (with perfect form) in 30 seconds, then immediately do the same for the second. Without resting, follow each superset with the corresponding cardio interval, doing the exercise of your choice (treadmill, bike, elliptical, or stair stepper). Don’t worry, you get a short break after each cardio interval. Alternate until you’ve done all four supersets and three cardio intervals. 

A Couple Tips
*Choose a weight and pace that exhaust you by the end of the set or interval, while maintaining good form throughout.
*Pause and rest if you need to, but your goal is to do as many reps as you can within the 30 seconds.

Superset 1:
Dumbbell Lunge to Overhead Press (you’ll need two dumbbells)
Split-Stance Cable Chop (you’ll need a cable machine)

Cardio Interval 1
Minutes 1 and 2: Effort level 4 (breathing and speaking comfortably)
Minute 3: Effort level 5 (increased breathing but speaking comfortably)
Minute 4: Effort level 6 (tough to speak in full sentences)
Rest for one to two minutes.

Superset 2
Underhand-Grip Lat Pulldown (you’ll need a lat pulldown machine)
Stability-Ball Back Extension (you’ll need a stability ball)

Cardio Interval 2
Minutes 1 and 2: Effort level 5 (increased breathing but speaking comfortably)
Minute 3: Effort level 8 (tough to speak more than six words at a time)
Minute 4: Effort level 9 (tough to speak more than two words at a time)
Rest for one to two minutes.

Superset 3
Stability-Ball Hamstring Curl (you’ll need a stability ball)
Stability-Ball Front Bridge (you’ll need a stability ball)

Cardio Interval 3
Minutes 1 and 2: Effort level 5 (increased breathing but speaking comfortably)
Minute 3: Effort level 7 (tough to speak in full sentences)
Minute 4: Effort level 8 (tough to speak more than six words at a time)
Rest for one to two minutes.

Superset 4
Stability-Ball Alternating Dumbbell Bench Press (you’ll need a stability ball and two dumbbells)
Weighted Russian Twist and Press (you’ll need a weight plate or a dumbbell)

OK, it might seem like a lot, but remember that you’re doing the supersets in 30-second blasts and each cardio interval for just four minutes, which ends up being about a 40-minute routine. (You can even get a print-out of the whole workout here.) Goodbye, workout slump! 

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Why Guys Say Things on Social Media That They Won't Say to You

Get some fascinating insight into this man mystery

Alexandra Sifferlin for Time.com

Here's a scenario you might recognize if you're a woman dating a social media butterfly: You're sitting on the couch together silently watching TV. When you take a moment to peek at your Twitter feed, you see your significant other has been sharing a stream of personal thoughts about House of Cards with the Twitterverse—even though he hasn't uttered a word to you.

It's no surprise that men tend to be more tight-lipped than women about their thoughts and feelings, but social media is creating a haven for some men to express themselves online in ways they don't in person—and never would have before. From a relationship perspective, that can be a good and bad thing. Women can now turn to social media to get more insight into what their partners think, but where's the intimacy in that when those feelings are also being broadcast to hundreds of Facebook friends and thousands of Twitter followers?

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Recent data from Pew Research Center suggests that social media is making its way into relationships more than ever, with 74 percent of couples surveyed saying the Internet has impacted their relationship in a good way. Women are more likely than men to use social media, with 71 percent of women participating, compared with 62 percent of men, according to the latest report from Women's Media Center. However, what psychologists and researchers find especially interesting is that, while women are equally willing to share the thoughts they spew out into the digital ether with someone face to face, men are much less likely to do the same.

Eva Buechel, a Ph.D. candidate at the University of Miami who has studied why people share content online, has found that men and women who experience social anxiety—and therefore have a greater need to express their negative emotions and seek support—are equally likely to maintain a blog or social media account. However, "while socially apprehensive females share equally across different communication channels—face to face or microblog—males seem to show a very strong preference for microblog," says Buechel. Introverts also find it easier to share their thoughts online than in person.

Other research from Northwestern University shows that men are increasingly more likely to share their creative work, like writing, music, or art, online. Nearly two-thirds of men in a 2008 study said they post their work online, compared with only half of the women who reported posting.

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Females, of course, are well-versed at expressing their feelings. "Women usually have close and intimate friendships, which might make it easy to approach a friend when they need to talk to someone," says Buechel. "Men have different relationships with their friends, and they might find it more difficult to approach someone in particular to talk to when they need someone to listen or comfort them."

Such friendship dynamics can contribute to men feeling more apprehensive about expressing themselves when it comes to real—rather than digital—life. "When men are texting, emailing, or communicating through another technological channel, they feel less threatened and are more likely to share their thoughts and feelings because they don't have to deal with the reaction from the other person in-person in real-time," says Seth Meyers, Psy.D., a Los Angeles psychologist. 

That's one reason Avidan Ackerson, 28, a software engineer in New York with three different Twitter accounts, tends to share more personal things on Twitter than he does on Facebook. "I don't necessarily always want someone who knows me well to know things about me, but I want someone to know these things," he says.

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Ben*, 28, who works in commercial real estate finance in New York City and tweets as much as 50 times a day, has yet to reveal his Twitter handle to the woman he's been dating for a month, even though he tweeted about their first date shortly after it happened. "It's not something I am embarrassed to share, but it's a level of intimacy we have not yet achieved in real life," he says. And it will probably be months before they become Facebook friends.

"Connecting online offers men the illusion of security, even though it often causes frustration later among their dates, who are wondering, 'Why is he different and more closed when we're actually together?'" says Meyers.

Though frustrating for women who prefer face-to-face communication with their mates, social media may offer a halfway point. "Men are not very good communicators," says Michael Busby, 47, a system programmer and lecturer at Murray State University in Murray, Kentucky, and an avid blogger. "When we get frustrated, we really start to break down. There are times when [I get overwhelmed in the classroom], I start to stutter. I have to calm down. But a controlled environment encourages us to have more confidence."

Jessica Riches, 23, a social media consultant in London, says her boyfriend, who tweets constantly, is pretty good at communicating. But visiting his Twitter page and seeing everything from his day-to-day activities to his thoughts and feelings can make her feel closer to him, as well. "I look at it more regularly [when] I miss him and wonder what he's up to."

Still, for a woman from Venus and a man from Mars, there's something frustrating about a man's willingness to communicate with thousands of people—some friends, some strangers—in a way he can't seem to do with the person lying right next to him in bed.

*Name has been changed for privacy.

This article was written by Alexandra Sifferlin and originally appeared on Time.com.

The 11 Worst Things That Can Happen At the Gym (in GIFs)

You show up ready to work out like a champ. And then this happens…

We generally like to think that no wrong can come from an awesome workout. But on those rare occasions when the universe seems to be totally against you, an innocent trip to the gym can be torture. Trust us, we feel your pain. Just check out these cringe-worthy gym fails that are pretty much the worst things ever:

After weeks of short-circuiting, your earbuds finally conk out.

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The only free elliptical is next to a girl yapping on her cell.

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Apparently, no one in your yoga class owns deodorant.

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Riiight as you dip into a squat, you pass gas.

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That sexy new personal trainer? It's your ex.

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You try a new leg machine and promptly end up tangled in it.

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You forgot a sports bra and decide to forge ahead wearing your push-up.

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You leave an absurdly large puddle of back sweat on the weight bench.

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No one in the entire freaking gym has a spare ponytail holder?!

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The nude woman you bump into in the locker room looks a lot like your boss…oh, wait.

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You snap a flexing selfie—and totally get busted.

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You HAVE to See This Jessica Simpson Selfie

Apparently, the celeb's not afraid to get affectionate on social media

Earlier this week, Jessica Simpson posted an Instagram photo of fiancé Eric Johnson and herself… kissing… under the covers. 

The pair's feelings for each other are pretty evident in the black and white photo. Jessica even posted the caption, "Goodnight kiss. I love this man."

We love that they love each other, but we're wondering: Whenever overly affectionate couples post selfies on social media, is it cute or, well, a tad obnoxious? Tell us your thoughts in our poll:

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Another Amazing Perk of Red Wine

As if you needed another excuse to get your vino on

Wine is packed with antioxidants. You know this and probably revel in it on the regular (as you should). Here's one more reason why: A new study in Cancer Cell International shows those antioxidants may block the growth of lung cancer—the most deadly type of cancer.

Researchers from Brock University and McMaster University in Ontario studied the effects of various types of wine—Cabernet Franc, Cabernet Sauvignon, Pinot Noir, and Riesling—on non-small cell lung cancer cells, the most common form of lung cancer. 

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They found that red wine inhibited cancer cell proliferation in concentrations as low as 2 percent, and white wine did the same in 5 percent concentrations. Drop for drop, Pinot Noir was the best at pumping the cancer cells' brakes. 

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While previous studies have shown that the polyphenol resveratrol, which is found in hefty doses in wine, has anti-cancer properties, this is the first study to use wine, rather than a synthetic version of the antioxidant, to examine its effects. 

Need more reason to cozy up with a glass of red? Check out these seven health benefits of wine. (Of course, everything in moderation—this is one case in which more isn't necessarily better since excessive alcohol consumption has been correlated with an increase in your risk for breast cancer.)

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10 Stunning Pictures and Videos of Ballerinas Doing Insanely Gorgeous Things

Check out these beautiful pictures and videos from The Ballerina Project, shot by photographer Dane Shitagi

If you're an Instagram fanatic like I am, you've certainly heard of (or seen pictures from) The Ballerina Project, a series of photographs by photographer Dane Shitagi taken over the course of 12 years. Shitagi's idea is to capture ballerinas posing outside the ballet studio... and the result is gorgeous. I'm completely obsessed. Check out The Ballerina Project online, and then be sure to follow the gorgeous feed on Instagram while you're at it. Need more convincing? Take a look at these stunning pics and videos, all posted from the Instagram account. 

 

 

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Lea Michele Has a New Song About Cory Monteith, and Hearing Her Talk About it Will Break Your Heart

Check out some of the lyrics, and listen to a preview of her upcoming album

We're still shaken by the untimely passing of Cory Monteith—so we can't even begin to imagine what his longtime girlfriend and Glee co-star, Lea Michele, is going through. Lea's new single, "If You Say So," gives a glimpse into her thoughts. Here are some of the lyrics:

Was just a week ago
You said, "I love you girl"
I said, "I love you more"
And a breath, a pause, you said, "If you say so"
If you say so
If you say so

It's been seven whole days, seven whole days
Since I heard the phone ring
Seven whole days, seven whole days
Since I heard your voice
And I can't get the last words that you said
Can't get those words out of my head
It's been seven whole days, seven whole days of pure hurt
And I can't get away from the burning pain a light you wake
And the fallen hero haunts my thoughts
How could you leave me this way

"I have not talked about 'If You Say So' yet," Lea says in an interview with Seventeen. "It's about my last conversation that I had with him. I spoke to a woman who lost her son, and she mentioned how grateful she was that the last words she said to her son before he died were, 'I love you.' Mine were that as well.

"[The song] is just about that," she continues. "There are lots of different emotions—if you could see this person again, what are the things you would want to say to them? It's a personal story."

We're incredibly impressed with Lea's strength and the courage it must take for her to put her feelings out there for everyone to hear. Although you can't preview this song on iTunes just yet, you can listen to the other singles from Lea's debut solo album, Louder (out March 3).

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The Major Benefit of a Vegetarian Diet

Bonus: Even part-time vegetarians may see a health boost

Chock this up to one of the many reasons you should make an effort to eat more veggies: A vegetarian (or even flexitarian) diet may help lower your blood pressure, according to a new meta-analysis of more than a century’s worth of clinical trials and observational studies.

Researchers from various universities and medical facilities in Japan and the U.S. teamed up to pore over the vast amount of existing data on the relationship between a vegetarian diet and its effects on blood pressure. In addition to dietary info, researchers looked at study participants’ systolic and diastolic blood pressure readings—i.e., the ratio-like stat your doctor gives you at checkups, measured in millimeters of mercury. (A healthy BP is 120/80.)

The meta-analysis concluded that study participants who followed a vegetarian diet had lower BP measurements across the board, likely because animal-free eating plans tend to be low in saturated fatty acids and high in both polyunsaturated fatty acids and potassium—all of which have been linked to lower blood pressure readings. It doesn’t hurt that vegetarians also tend to maintain a healthy weight.

But it wasn’t just the strict vegetarians who saw blood pressure benefits. In the study, people who identify as “semi-vegetarians” were counted as vegetarians (as were vegans). Inspired to start working more vegetarian meals into your diet? Learn how to become a part-time vegan.

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5 Foods That Have More Sodium Than a Bag of Chips

You'll be shocked to discover which otherwise good-for-you foods are loaded with salt

Your body needs sodium—but there's no denying that most of us are getting way too much of it. According to recent stats from the American Heart Association, the average daily sodium intake in this country is 3,600 milligrams—more than double the Association's recommendation of 1,500 milligrams max. But avoiding clear offenders like salted nuts and potato chips may not be enough to bring you down into the recommended range since there are so many sneaky salt bombs out there. Just look at these seemingly healthful foods—they all contain more than 255 milligrams of sodium, which is the amount you'll find in a 1 ½-ounce bag of Lays Classic Potato Chips:
 

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1/2 Cup Nonfat Cottage Cheese
This packs a surprising 270 milligrams of sodium—and if you're not careful, it's easy to eat more than ½ cup and really overdo it with the salty stuff. 
 

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A 6 1/2" Whole-Wheat Pita 
Pitas come with a health halo—especially when they're whole-wheat—and they can be a good source of fiber. But they also come with a heavy dose of sodium: 284 milligrams in just one pocket.
 
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2 Tbsp Reduced-Fat Italian Salad Dressing
Yup, you can take in more sodium in 2 Tbsp of your salad topper than in an entire bag of chips: This variety is loaded with 260 mg per serving—although plenty of other types of salad dressing pack just as much. 

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A Veggie Burger
While the exact stats will of course vary from brand to brand, the USDA says that one store-bought veggie burger patty tends to come in around 398 milligrams of sodium—and that's before you even consider all of the salt in the bun (many types of bread are just as salty as pitas, if not more so). 
 

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1/2 Cup Canned Tomato Sauce
Tomato sauce has its virtues—it contains lycopene, for example, a carotenoid that research has linked to a decreased risk of heart disease and certain types of cancer. But you have to eat it in moderation since each ½-cup serving packs a shocking 642 milligrams of sodium.
  

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The Problem with Healthy Food Porn

What you need to know about the fruit and veggies you see on Instagram and Pinterest

As any Instagram lover can attest, unhealthy foods (think: greasy macaroni and cheese, sugar-filled cake pops, and pretty much anything wrapped in bacon) get a lot more Internet time than do healthy ones.

A new website from Bolthouse Farms (a company that sells products like smoothies, juices, dressings, and carrots) is out to change that. The aptly named FoodPornIndex.com tracks 24 food-related hashtags—half healthy, half not so much—in real-time. Why? So you can see how many people are sharing them at any given moment. Today’s hashtags include #candy, #melon, #pie, and #kale, among others.

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When we checked for this article, a whopping 71.6 percent of food porn being shared online was of the unhealthy variety, according to the site. And it was a particularly sad day for #beets, which were coming in dead last (among the items tracked by the site), with only 342,815 moment-by-moment shares. Meanwhile, #pizza was rocking the Internet will more than 9 million shares.

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While the site doesn’t go so far as to tease out healthy #snacks, #burgers, and other foods from the grease-soaked kind (check out these healthy snack ideas and six bikini-friendly burgers), the site’s a pretty good reminder that we seriously need to rehab our food porn problem. After all, fruits and veggies can be beautiful, too! (The site goes as far as to encourage visitors to start posting more pictures of healthful foods to “make every #FoodPorn count” and “change the imbalance.”)

Want to do your part? Try these easy tips to make veggie dishes look food-porn worthy. You won’t be able not to share them.

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The Bad Habit 77 Percent of Women Need to Break

It’s even more destructive than biting your nails

When was the last time you complained about your hair or vented to a friend about a particularly huge pimple? Chances are, it wasn't too long ago. According to a recent survey by TODAY and AOL, 77 percent of adult women complained about their appearance to someone at least once in the past month.

It might not seem like a huge deal—everyone gripes about their looks now and then, right?—but it can actually have some pretty damaging side effects. "That's negative self-talk, and when we hear it, we internalize it," says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., author of A Happy You. "This self-deprecation may just be about our looks, but it tends to permeate into other areas of our lives." The result: That nagging, nitpicky voice in your head starts popping up a lot more often.

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And here's the really bad news: It's actually contagious, says Lombardo. (Just think of the scene in Mean Girls where they hit the mirror and hate on everything from their pores to their nail beds.) When a friend is dissing her outfit, most of us instinctively fire back with something we don't like about our looks. "It becomes almost like a contest," says Lombardo.

So how do you squash the habit and stop the cycle? If you're constantly making self-deprecating comments, realize how powerful they are and try to focus on what you'd rather be saying about yourself, says Lombardo. Another important tip: Instead of deflecting compliments from others ("Ugh, are you kidding—my roots are so bad!"), just simply say thank you, suggests Lombardo. And don't be afraid to give your friends helpful reminders whenever they're deflecting or being a downer. You'll be stopping the hate-fest before it gets too out of control. For more tips, check out four ways to overcome self-doubt.

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10 Weird Facts About Cheating

You won't believe what researchers dug up this time

By Alexandra Churchill for YourTango

Size does matter…just not the size of what you think.

A new study claims that women are more likely to cheat on their man if he has big balls. (Yep, you read that right.) Researchers from the University of Oslo studied monkeys, grasshoppers, and sea urchins specifically—and they found that a female is more likely to have other sexual relationships if her mate has large testicles.

The testicles of humans are one-and-a-half times larger than those of gorillas—and researchers say this shows that we are an unfaithful race by nature.

Personally, we'd like to know why they decided to study monkeys, bugs, and sea urchins to determine human behavior, but we digress. The point is that you'd probably have to have big balls to interject yourself into someone else's relationship. (Bro code, guys?)

Hungry for other bizarre facts found from cheating studies? Here are 10 research-backed findings that had us doing a double take:

1. Facebook Could Foster Infidelity
A new study published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking suggests that Facebook leads users to reconnect with old flings, which in turn, leads to more affairs, breakups, and divorces.

2. The French Are Big-Time Cheaters
The French are known as the world's best lovers, but they might not be the most loyal. In fact, a French poll found that a majority of men and a third of women admitted to cheating on their partners. Infidelity has been on the rise in that country since the 1970s, when only about 19 percent admitted to cheating.

3. Fakers Are More Likely to Cheat
If your partner is faking the big O in bed...watch out. It could be a sign that he or she is getting action from someone else. One study found that both men and women who faked orgasms were far more likely to be unfaithful.

4. Cheaters Love Chain Restaurants
Suspect that your partner is cheating? The first place you might want to scope out is a chain. (Yo quiero...an affair?) The infamous extra-marital affair dating website Ashley Madison asked more than 40,000 cheaters where they loved to wine and dine in secret and revealed the top 10 dining destinations to have an affair. Among them? Red Lobster, Outback Steakhouse, Chili's, and P.F. Chang's.

5. Cheaters Also Love Chain Stores
After delving into the dating habits of the unfaithful, AshleyMadison.com asked about their shopping habits. In their poll of 50,000-plus women, more than a third said they spend more money to keep up their looks for their secret lover. In addition, 27 percent said they have a secret credit card to keep their financial infidelity under wraps. So what are some of the most popular stores for cheaters? Banana Republic, J. Crew, Macy's, Ann Taylor, and H&M all ranked high on the list.

…Click here for 5 more weird facts about cheating from YourTango!

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The Shocking Truth About Some Before- and After- Weight-Loss Success Story Photos

Prepare to be very upset

What woman doesn’t love a good before and after picture? Unfortunately, weight-loss companies know that—and many are using faked photos to try to rob you of your money and even your health, reveals a new exposé by the TODAY Show.

Sure, we’ve all had those “it must be too good to be true” thoughts when confronted with weight-loss pop-up ads and late-night infomercials. But according to TODAY, these fraudulent weight-loss advertisements are way more prevalent than you may have realized—and they make up one of the most-reported frauds in the country, according the Federal Trade Commission.

So how do these companies fudge their facts? In TODAY’s review of several popular weight-loss products, companies had gone so far as to steal women’s photos off of their personal blogs and make up their weight-loss success captions—of course, crediting their products with the results.

Even Women’s Health has had its likeliness and copyrighted materials used illegally to promote diet pills. Last year, an Internet scam claimed WH endorsed a whole bevy of weight-loss pills and supplements. And in this case, some of the pills weren’t just ineffective; they were downright dangerous. (Learn more about the health risks of garcinia cambogia extract pills.)

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Meanwhile, another “shrinking” figure that has shown up in advertisements for various weight-loss products is actually a stock photo of a plus-sized woman. Weight-loss companies use her photo as-is for the “before” and then Photoshop it for her "after" picture.

While many diet ads don’t go to such extremes to sell their products, the industry is still full of tricks to make minimal weight loss look radical, according to the report.

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Someone's posture, hair, wardrobe, and even the lighting they are under can make the difference between a so-called “fat” and “skinny” picture.

Want to see some REAL before/after pics? Check out these readers' weight-loss success stories and get tips on losing weight the healthy way.

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Why The Shocking Twist on <em>The Bachelor</em> Was Actually Really Awesome

So what if he's into you?

For me—and I would hope all women—The Bachelor is more of a guilty pleasure than a template for a healthy love life. But this week, one of the contestants made a move I can totally get behind more women making: peacing out when they know they aren't into it.

After spending a night with bachelor Juan Pablo in the "fantasy suite," contestant Andi Dorfman said that she couldn't wait to for the night to end, because, guess what? She just wasn't into him. "Not once did he really ask anything about me," she told the cameras. "I'm not unsure. I know he's not the one."

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It might sound silly, but this is pretty huge in the reality-show dating world. It's the first time a female contestant on The Bachelor has just come out and said, "Yeah, I'm not feeling it." Seriously. While other contestants have left for personal reasons and Sharleen Joynt left earlier this season because she wasn't sure she was emotionally ready for an engagement, Dorfman is the first contestant to flat-out say the dude wasn't all that and a bag of chips.

While the fact that this is a TV-first seems more a sign of how backwards "reality" dating is than anything else—we all could learn a lesson from Dorfman's bold move. 

Sure, the average woman isn't in such an overt contest for "the one," but dating can far too easily feel a competition. We've all felt the pressure of trying to stand out amid the throngs of women that fill bars and online dating sites alike. We've all tried to charm our way to a second date. And we've all felt the twinge of jealousy that comes when our friends post their engagement rings online. (You can deny it, but I know you're lying.)

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All of that pressure can make it easy to get caught up in an "is he into me?" mentality, rather than an "am I into him" one. And we need to start asking ourselves the latter.

As Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of Finding Love Again, says, women are often so busy trying to "sell" ourselves to the person we're dating that "we don't step back and ask, 'Is this the person for me? Are we compatible?'" Her advice? Identify what you want and need in a partner (you can even break out the pen and paper if it helps!), and don't shy away from communicating and expecting that from your beau. Now's not the time to settle. And if you do throw in the towel, know the time you spent dating wasn't wasted, says Orbuch. "You learned. You grew."

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7 Workouts for a Great Rear View—No Butt Job Required!

Butt augmentations are on the rise. We much prefer these butt-sculpting workouts

Ever since Beyoncé (and don't forget Kelly and Michelle) first sang the praises of a bootylicious backside, women have been vying for ways to turn their pancake butts into something a little more… filling. The newest—and craziest—tactic? The butt job. 

According to the annual report from the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, butt augmentations (using fat grafting, no less!) are up 16 percent from 2012, making them the sixth most popular cosmetic procedure currently on the table.

To us, though, a properly targeted workout sounds a lot more appealing than injecting fat straight into our derrières. So we rounded up some of our favorite tush-toning, -shaping, and -lifting moves yet. Try them out—and then go spend that butt-surgery money on some new eye-popping jeans.

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